Who Needs a Teddy Bear When You’ve Got a Teddy Baby?


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There is something about a baby’s open, trusting gaze that literally draws love from us.

A newborn can see clearly to about 8″, just far enough to focus intently on his mother’s face. It is almost as if the initiative to bond comes from the baby first, especially when I consider the fierce hand grip that they are born with. To ensure that an infant is fed, he is born with the rooting reflex. These traits help to draw out strong protective love from both parents. For me it was almost a magical transformation from an exhausted woman in labour to a glowing mother adoring her newborn.

When the kids were little, I literally had to watch the clock to make sure everyone would get a chance to hold their new sibling . I think the children bonded to each other because even a toddler was given the privilege of holding the baby. With excitement twinkling in their eyes, barely containing their joy long enough to sit still while I propped up one of their little arms with a pillow, they looked extremely proud and pleased as they too held the baby.

Bedtime became something to look forward to for about three months after the birth of our newest addition. I would wrap the newborn tightly in a warm blanket and let each child cuddle up to a living and breathing teddy baby. This quiet time, to be alone with their sibling allowed warm, nurturing, love to flow between both children and it eliminated jealousy The focus was no longer just on the baby but attention focused on an older child and the baby.

As I nursed, it was easy to give the older children my mental and emotional attention by listening, talking, reading books to them, helping with homework and even playing with play dough with one hand. I can honestly say that no one resented all the time each newborn demanded because we were all part of caring for the baby. Little ones were proud to run for diapers, clothes or blankets and older kids would choose rocking or pushing a colicky baby in the buggy over washing dishes any day.

One of our family jokes concerns the day I managed to relate to five people at once! I was laying down on our bed, back to back with my husband as he read and I nursed a newborn. A toddler lay curled around my head, playing with my hair, I was fixing a knitting mistake for a sevenyear old and talking to a ten year-old. I am pretty proud of that statistic.

11 thoughts on “Who Needs a Teddy Bear When You’ve Got a Teddy Baby?

  1. Some years in Catechism class I round up a parent and a baby from the congregation so my 6th-graders can take turns holding it in the back of class. Many have never held an infant; the impact on them would bring tears you your eyes.

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  2. I had two boys. They are 4 years apart. I can remember the older one wanting to hold his brother. I loved seeing that.
    They are now both adults, married and best friends. God bless!

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  3. Melanie, this is such a great story. And I love the picture at the top of your blog of the red cardinal in the snow-covered trees.

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