But He was wounded for our transgressions,
He was bruised for our iniquities;
The chastisement for our peace was upon Him,
And by His stripes we are healed. (Isaiah 53:5)
It is not easy to let go of control because I am naturally wired to act just like a vacuum cleaner, sucking up all my children’s pain. Likewise, my children are compassionate vacuum cleaners, who attract other people’s negative emotions. They are all aware they learned this dysfunctional behaviour not only from observing my husband and me in action but also because they have inherited this trait from both of us.
This problem, The Vacuum Cleaner Syndrome, is a difficult disease to cure. My daughter, a fellow vacuum cleaner, Katie asked this question during a family discussion,
“How can one vacuum cleaner help another vacuum cleaner?”
Four of us around the circle smiled and laughed at the image.Then I blurted out, “Why, show the other vacuum how to reverse the hose and blow out the dirt and not suck it in, collect it or try to control it.”
That humourous comment released waves of uncontrollable laughter blasting clean air through all of us and helped us let go of control. Compassion and empathy are vital in close relationships but my tendency is to try to fix my husband and kids by hoarding their pain within my heart.
Do my seemingly selfless reactions weigh me down?
Is anyone fixed or set free as I sacrifice my peace and happiness to try to help my family?
Does this Vacuum Cleaner Syndrome destroy everyone’s peace and joy when I try to control everything?
The good news is that a silly image picturing mum as a vacuum cleaner does reverse this self-defeating, addictive pattern because it makes it easier for everyone to understand how ludicrous I have been. The laughter that follows releases the tension used to keep emotional pain locked up inside. I am not the saviour; we are all children of God. Yes, my life is one of devotion and dying to my false self but I do not serve my family or God on my strength. I live and move and have my being in Him; His strength, love, grace and mercy sustains me and flows to my children. No room for arrogance.
I walk in faith and trust, trust in His mercy and love. Jesus is the only vacuum cleaner who has the ability to literally suck up everyone’s emotional pain and sin, then blow in joy, peace and new life back in. The only prerequisite is to give Him permission. This is the great exchange; surrender dirt and receive the bright, clean breath of God, then laugh at how long it took you to let it happen.
Let’s let go of control and entrust our kids to God and Mary’s intercession.
Mary is the Queen over all things: “Queen over all things” (Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraph 966).
Entrust our cares to Mary: “Holy Mary, Mother of God…we can entrust all our cares and petitions to her: she prays for us as she prayed for herself: ‘Let it be to me according to your word.’ [Lk 1:38] By entrusting ourselves to her prayer, we abandon ourselves to the will of God together with her: ‘Thy will be done,’ (CCC 2677).
Mary is Advocate, Helper, Mediatrix. “…the Blessed Virgin is invoked in the Church under the titles of Advocate, Helper, Benefactress, and Mediatrix.'” (CCC 969).
Amen. Let it be so
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On Wed, Feb 24, 2016 at 12:16 AM, joy of nine9 wrote:
> melanie jean juneau posted: ” Fallen man wants to run his own life and > take control. Letting go of this control seems extremely difficult because > it is hard to trust a God you cannot see and usually cannot feel or hear. > However, when we refuse to give up control and submit to the Fa” >
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