Who Needs a Teddy Bear When You’ve Got a Teddy Baby?


Ponder: What do you do to make sure that each child feels included in the family circle?

Lord give us a sense of humour and a creative intelligence to meet the emotional, physical, and spiritual needs of our children

A newborn can see clearly for about eight inches, just far enough to focus intently on his mother’s face.  It is almost as if the initiative to bond comes from the baby first, especially when I consider the fierce hand grip they are born with.  To ensure an infant is fed, he is also born with an incredibly powerful rooting reflex. These traits help to draw out strong protective love from both parents. For me, it was almost a magical transformation from an exhausted woman in labor to a glowing mother adoring her newborn.

 

Even when all the kids were still little, I decided to share this magic with them. It was one of the best decisions I ever made to enable mutual respect and love to flourish in our family.  However, at the time I was forced to literally watch the clock to ensure everyone would get a chance to hold their new sibling . It seems to me that the children bonded to each other because even our toddlers were given the privilege of holding the baby. With excitement twinkling in their eyes, barely containing their joy long enough to sit still while I propped up one of their little arms with a pillow, they looked extremely proud and pleased as they too held the baby.

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Bedtime became something to look forward to for about three months after the birth of our newest addition. I would wrap the newborn tightly in a warm blanket and let each child cuddle up to a living and breathing teddy baby. This quiet time, to be alone with their sibling allowed warm, nurturing, love to flow between both children and it eliminated jealousy. The focus was no longer just on the baby but attention focused on an older child and the baby.

As I nursed, it was easy to give the older children my mental and emotional attention by listening, talking, reading books to them, helping with homework and even playing with play dough with one hand. I can honestly say that no one resented all the time each newborn demanded because we were all part of caring for the baby. Little ones were proud to run for diapers, clothes or blankets, and older kids would choose rocking or pushing a colicky baby in the buggy over washing dishes any day.

One of our family jokes concerns the day I managed to relate to five people at once! I was laying down on our bed, back to back with my husband as he read and I nursed a newborn. A toddler lay curled around my head, playing with my hair, I was fixing a knitting mistake for a seven-year old, and talking to a ten-year-old.

I am pretty proud of that statistic.

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3 thoughts on “Who Needs a Teddy Bear When You’ve Got a Teddy Baby?

  1. I think I really needed this post in my life right now. I’m expecting our 3rd child (December baby) and feeling a bit overwhelmed with how my two (girl and boy) is going to react with the baby. Like I did with my oldest, I let her hold her brother and spend time with him–now they are very close.

    During this pregnancy, I let them all be a part of it: watching developing videos with me, present during my checkups and sonograms. I pray that when this 3rd one is born, all of them will feel that they are loved, and equally important.

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