Euthanasia: When It’s Cruel to Be Kind


Death is as common as birth, obviously, but old age homes and palliative care facilities efficiently remove the dying from the public eye. Consequently, most modern folks are ignorant about the process of death and dying and would rather ignore the entire subject. No wonder euthanasia is gaining acceptance. No need to worry about the possibility of enduring a prolonged painful death, no need to watch a loved one suffer; euthanasia will allow people to simply slip into painless oblivion. It could be a scenario from a science fiction story.

However, euthanasia is no longer the stuff of fiction. On June 17, 2016, Bill C-14 was passed in Canada’s Parliament to legalize and regulate physician-assisted euthanasia when death is “reasonably foreseeable and the patient is in an advanced state of irreversible decline.” “The bill has received Royal Assent and is, or will soon become law”. Eight out of ten Canadians agree. On the surface, euthanasia seems to be a compassionate response to suffering but in terms of people’s eternal existence, it has the potential to be cruel. Often a person’s final destiny is fulfilled only moments before a natural death. Tragically most people support euthanasia without understanding the process of dying nor how it will prepare them for eternity.

What Do You Know of Death?

In the opening scene of the movie Gran Torino, Walt, a hardened soldier stands rigidly, scowling at family and friends during his wife’s funeral mass. Dying from lung disease and tormented by the fact he slaughtered men and boys during the Korean War, Walt accuses his parish priest of knowing nothing of death as he quotes from the funeral homily:

‘Death is bittersweet? Bitter in the pain, sweet in the salvation.’ That’s what you know of life and death? Good, God. It’s pathetic.

A similar accusation could be leveled at most Catholics. If Christians want to speak out against euthanasia, we better know a bit more about life and death than pious, memorized phrases.

2258Human life is sacred because from its beginning it involves the creative action of God and it remains forever in a special relationship with the Creator, who is its sole end. God alone is the Lord of life from its beginning until its end: no one can under any circumstance claim for himself the right directly to destroy an innocent human being.”

Crucial Last Moments

When people actually witness another embrace the last stages of their life, they begin to understand how we exit this life is as important as how we entered it. The process of dying is as sacred and awe-inspiring as the process of birth.

My husband’s father was a faithful Catholic who was outwardly devout but inwardly frustrated by his inability to connect with God. He finally experienced an authentic spiritual encounter days before death, after a period of enforced isolation in the hospital accompanied by intense pain. After his Divine appointment, he finally knew, in his deepest self, that he was loved and forgiven by God. The Spirit of God only managed to break through my father-in-law’s reserve to touch his heart when he reached the lowest point of his life.  Yet, if euthanasia had been a legal option and he had decided to end his life prematurely, he would have died unhappy and unfilled. It would have been a life cut short before he achieved his heart’s desire.

2280 Everyone is responsible for his life before God who has given it to him. It is God who remains the sovereign Master of life. We are obliged to accept life gratefully and preserve it for his honor and the salvation of our souls. We are stewards, not owners, of the life God has entrusted to us. It is not ours to dispose of.

My latest encounter with a terminal illness shook me to my core. This time, it was the last few hours of a man’s life which were crucial, not days.  One of my husband’s athletic younger brothers lay dying of cancer. The day before his death, he had been semi-conscious but unable to speak as a priest administered the Last Rites. While the priest led the family in prayers, he looked extremely self-conscious, hard, and angry. It seemed like he was still rejecting grace.

Looking Death In The Eye

Unbeknownst to me, the grace of that last Sacrament was working in my brother-in-law.  I was finally alone with him the next day, sitting beside his narrow bed with the sound of ragged breathing echoing throughout the hospital room. The sound was eerie, unnerving even. Hours before death, his tanned, chiseled face was propped up by white pillows, a dramatic testament to the rough life he had embraced as the self-proclaimed black sheep of his religious family. He was now in a cancer-induced coma, so I decided to pray right into his spirit:

I call your spirit to attention and invite you to turn to your Heavenly Father because He created you, called you by name and now welcomes you once again with outstretched arms. His Mercy is boundless; God sees you exactly as you are, He knows all your sins yet still loves you. The moment you turn to God in repentance, He will embrace you as His son.

I opened my eyes, literally jumped, and my heart started pounding. His eyes were wide open. Even though brain cancer had left him comatose, he was looking right at me with intelligence. His gaze was not that of a jaded adult but like the look of a child who was vulnerable and afraid of the unknown. His eyes seemed to plead with me. That brief glimpse into a man’s inner spirit is seared in my mind.

Flustered, I did not know how to respond, so I simply closed my eyes and continued praying. When I dared open my eyes again, my brother-in-law had slipped back into a coma but, this time, I was filled with joy. There was a tangible Presence of peace in the room. I knew he had turned to God. How could anyone deny him those last few hours of life when he needed every single minute to finally make peace with himself and with God? Euthanasia might have seemed like a humane choice for my brother-in-law but it in terms of his eternal destiny, it would have been a tragedy.

Surprised by Mercy

Despite my brother-in-law’s rough façade, he was a man who lived from his heart. Perhaps he was closer to the Almighty than his rosary praying grandmother and mother ever imagined. For weeks as he lay dying, his tough motorcycle buddies, dressed in heavy, black leather boots and jackets, stomped through the hospital and shouldered past well-dressed, polite relatives to crowd in his hospital room, bearing witness to their friend’s loyalty. His kindness and generosity were the stuff of stories, told and retold with reverence amongst his buddies.

A few days later, these same men drove during a frigid Canadian winter night and parked a polished Harley Davidson motorcycle outside the parish Church in time for the funeral. That motorcycle stood like an icon, a monument to my brother-in-law’s life.

The Other Side of the Veil

The truth is death is not final; those who have passed on are not lost to us. This sounds like a pious phrase memorized and repeated to offer shallow comfort to the grieving.  However, I am not merely spouting dry theology when I remind you, in the Body of Christ, there is only a thin veil between those who are living on earth and those who have died. We are all part of a single mystical body.

God taught me this truth years ago when the thought popped into my head to ask Agnes Sanford, a pioneer in the area of spiritual inner healing, to pray for me. Immediately, I experienced a surge of joy and a sense of laughter, then heard a reply in my spirit,

“You have my undivided attention, my dear. No one else has ever requested my prayers; I was a Protestant on earth, you know. “

Agnes has been my go-to intercessor ever since. We intercede for those in Purgatory and in return ask the saints to pray for us. This is the communion of the saints, both the living and the dead.

Euthanasia: A Cruel Act

People are shocked when favorite celebrities die unexpectedly, never mind their loved ones. They are even less prepared to face their own inevitable death, especially if it involves suffering. People celebrate the start of life on earth, but avoid thinking of the passage through death into eternal life. Even though the Catholic faith teaches belief in the after-life, most people still fear the unknown; they do not know how to prepare to die. However, it is precisely during the process of dying that God often manages to pierce through people’s defenses to lead them into His heart.

Euthanasia might seem a compassionate gesture but it just might be one of the cruelest acts a society can commit considering it might alter someone’s eternity.

 2277 “Whatever its motives and means, direct euthanasia consists in putting an end to the lives of handicapped, sick, or dying persons. It is morally unacceptable. Thus an act or omission which, of itself or by intention, causes death in order to eliminate suffering constitutes a murder gravely contrary to the dignity of the human person and to the respect due to the living God, his Creator. The error of judgment into which one can fall in good faith does not change the nature of this murderous act, which must always be forbidden and excluded.”

first published on Catholic Stand

3 thoughts on “Euthanasia: When It’s Cruel to Be Kind

  1. Again, I am reading something just when I need to. Today, a dear friend wrote about his dying parent who is not wearing his wedding garments right yet – the parent still has much bitterness and hardness within. My friend is torn and ragged from trying to love right all these years. I promised to help through prayer, and reading you now gives me the strength and hope that hardened souls who die will die in grace.

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    1. A friend of mine was completely devastated because her mother who did not believe or practice her faith was in a coma. Yet, she continued to pray. Suddenly, her mother sat up, opened her eyes smiled, raised her arms, laid down and died. My friend was filled with peace,

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