Are Women Basically Mothers at Heart?


Women today are confused about who they are called to be. If we feel called to be full-time mothers, society seems to dismiss us as vintage models, out of step with the modern feminist agenda. I know I often felt embarrassed because I did not have a real job as I mothered nine kids.

Edith Stein (St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross) had a lot to say about the nature of women. She was a Jewish German philosopher who converted to Catholicism, became a Discalced Carmelite nun, and died in the gas chambers of Auschwitz.

Initially, she struggled intellectually with the whole idea that women were different than men. In the end, instead of denying her gender, she looked to her body as the image of her soul. Katharina Westerhorstmann discusses Stein’s view of women in On the Nature and Vocation of Women: Edith Stein’s Concept against the Background of a Radically Deconstructive Position.

Designed to Receive and Give Love

Although Stein understood every woman was an individual, she believed women’s bodies and souls share a basic nature designed to give and receive of love, the “forming principle of the female soul.” According to Stein, the entire being of a woman seeks to be filled with love.

This tendency can only become stable when she is connected to the “eternal sources.” Be it in the home, office or on a mission field, women have a gift of knowing when another person needs to be loved. It is her gift and her happiness to share the life of another human being, namely by taking part in everything that concerns him: in big and small matters, in joy and suffering, and also in tasks and problems.

Women can be fulfilled in a myriad of vocations as long as they are free to develop this gift of being there for others by serving and loving. In other words, women need to “mother.”

The Dignity of Women

Saint John Paul II agrees with Edith Stein in his letter, Mulieris Dignitatem (On the Dignity and Vocation of Women), published in 1988. He teaches there are natural differences between the sexes which are not just cultural or sexual but in perceiving, judging, choosing, and even in the way men and women love. True equality does not mean men and women must pretend to be the same to keep one sex from being inferior to the other.

He teaches us about women’s dignity and celebrates a woman’s unique traits. Women and men complement each other.

In his conclusion, St John Paul II offers encouragement to women to discover their vocation as women. Jesus had a “great esteem for the dignity of women and for the vocation which enables them to share in his messianic mission. … In the Spirit of Christ, in fact, women can discover the entire meaning of their femininity and thus be disposed to making a “sincere gift of self” to others, thereby finding themselves.” The Church recognises the “mystery of woman, … for that which constitutes the eternal measure of her feminine dignity, for the “great works of God.”

I am encouraged and lifted up by these words, proud to be a woman, proud to be distinct and different from a man.

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5 thoughts on “Are Women Basically Mothers at Heart?

  1. Reading this, I find myself wondering even more again about what it means to be a man. Like, there’s this realization that living and struggling with the concept of male “superiority” and all that seems to have had us taking being a man for granted a lot more than we think. Fortunately, I can feel God raising that joyful curiosity and enthusiasm towards learning more about how to be a better man!

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