Why Most of Us Are Scapegoats, Not Saintly Martyrs

Every society, every culture has a tradition of a scapegoat: a person or group of people to blame and punish for the sins of that particular society. Centuries ago, old women were blamed for poor crops, cows which failed to produce milk and any birth defects. Less superstitious societies turned on each new group of immigrants to…… Continue reading Why Most of Us Are Scapegoats, Not Saintly Martyrs

Stealing God’s Job: Defying Reality # 2

A writing prompt once asked, “Think about the last time you broke a rule (a big one, not just ripping the tags off  your pillows). Were you burned, or did things turn out for the best?” Just like most people, I do not simply break a rule here and there;  no, like every other human…… Continue reading Stealing God’s Job: Defying Reality # 2

The Vacuum Cleaner Syndrome

I am wired to function emotionally just like a vacuum cleaner,sucking up all my children’s pain. Likewise, my children are compassionate vacuum cleaners as well, who attract other people’s negative emotions. They are all aware that they learned this dysfunctional behaviour not only from observing Michael and me in action but also because they have inherited this trait from…… Continue reading The Vacuum Cleaner Syndrome